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To show someone you love them

After reading Marcus’s post, I thought long and hard about it. What’s the best way to show someone you love them? Would it be ^3^ or XXX? Well this post probably doesn’t answer the question directly.

Me, I think the best ways of showing that person you love them are the things you do behind their back. Example? There’s a girl you’re madly in love with. The only thing that’s keeping you from her… is her new boyfriend. He’s amazing, handsome, and he’s fucking crazy about her. She loves him more than the world. And as much as you hate to admit it, she’s better off with him. If you really loved her, you’d take the boyfriend, lure him into a dark alley, pull out a silver chain… and give it to him straight and unflinching. You tell him that her birthday comes up in three days and she’s been eyeing this necklace in that jewelry place for awhile.
Do it with a happy heart. Why is it the best way? It’s selfless.

To show her you love her, you just have to make her happy. It could be from the easiest, mundane things like surprising her with a cup of her favorite tea to something as gut-wrenching as the above. To show her you love her, you put her above yourself. And that’s it. That’s all there is to it. Sometimes it hurts, but that’s the price you pay when you’re emotionally invested. The results are often worth it. If you truly love her. Or else the money you burned on that necklace was a huge mistake.

To show a friend you love him or her, you should put them above yourself as well. Wake up at 7:00 in the morning because they want to spend time with you at 7:30 in the morning. Realize that they want to see you at 7:30 in the fucking morning because they probably can’t. Wait. To. See. You… because they think you’re worth getting up at 7 in the morning for. Show up on time.

Showing a friend you love him or her doesn’t require giving sage advice whenever they need it. They don’t need opinions or instructions unless they ask. Usually all they do is talk. And if you care, you listen.

When they’re pissed, you, as a true friend, are meant to take his or her side no matter how messed up they are. You still talk of course, if what they did totally sucked. You talk after they pull themselves together. There’s an old saying that when you’re spending the night in a jail cell, a friend will check up on you in the morning, a good friend will bail you out, but a best friend will be in the cell with you.

When I figure out that I love someone, I find that it’s special. Because despite what the hippies say, love is very rare. There are over 6 billion people on this planet. If you’re lucky, maybe 10/6,600,000,000 will love you. (Not by default like family)

I guess what I’m trying to say is that love hurts, it’s hardly worth it, but you can’t live without it. Love means putting yourself on the line because it’s so rare it’s worth dying for.

And I bet many people have.

Night everyone


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